The God of Jesus is a God who suffers with us

Two weeks ago (Sunday 5th July 2026) I led worship at New Road Baptist Church in Oxford. I was honoured to do so; this is the church that I attended for years while living in Oxford and where I served as a deacon from 2021 to 2023. I was delighted to receive such a warm welcome there again.

Below is the text of my sermon. To be clear: this is basically the text that I wrote beforehand but in practice I deviated from the wording at times and added in a few extra comments.

The sermon followed two Bible readings:

Song of Songs 2, 8-13

Matthew 11, 16-19 and 25-30

I have the privilege of working as a university chaplain at Aston University. It is a real honour to be part of a multifaith chaplaincy team in a multicultural city. I learn so much from students of and staff of many faiths and of none. And one of the great things about being a chaplain is that I don’t know from one day to the next who I will see or what sort of conversations I will have. Some conversations will be extremely challenging, such as when students turn up in a state of considerable distress. At other times, I’m just chatting with students over cups of tea.

Then there are times when we’re talking about faith. Students of many faiths and none show a great ability to listen to each other about matters of faith and values. And I often find myself being asked questions about Christian faith, about Jesus and about the Bible.

Muslim students who want to know about Christianity often ask me, “What’s the difference between Catholics and Protestants?”. A Jewish student once asked me, “Do Christian deliberately make enemies so that they can love them?”

At times I am really saddened by how many non-religious students expect Christians to be judgemental. There are people who imagine that the Bible consists largely of lists of rules to be obeyed and sins to be condemned. And I cannot blame people for thinking this. It is not their fault. It is our fault. Well, perhaps not all of us individuals! But it is the fault of Christians. Christians have all too often given the impression that Christianity is all about condemning people.

Perhaps one reason why some people assume that the Bible is full of harsh rules and condemnations is that sometimes we don’t trust people to open the Bible and read it for themselves.

I recently experienced the surprised reaction of an atheist student who randomly opened a Bible in the Chaplaincy and found himself reading the book of Leviticus. Along with some rules that he found objectionable, he was taken aback to find a strong emphasis on justice for the poor, with rules to prevent poor people being exploited, far more radical than anything we encounter in society today. There are some parts of the Bible that even many Christians don’t talk about very often!

That leads me to the Lectionary readings for today. As we heard earlier, one of this week’s readings is from the Song of Songs, also known as the Song of Solomon. It’s not a book that appears often in the Lectionary. Are the Lectionary-compilers are nervous of letting us look at it?

Song of Songs is an erotic poem hidden in the middle of the Bible. Hidden in plain sight, there it is in every copy of the Bible but rarely quoted. It is full of comments about passionate, physical love: “The voice of my beloved! Look, he comes, leaping upon the mountains, bounding over the hills”. The two main characters express affection and enthusiasm for each other – and for each other’s bodies. The passage that we read today is one of the milder excerpts from the Song of Songs. If you want to read the harder stuff, I recommend reading the whole Song of Songs, because the 18-rated passages won’t appear in the Lectionary.

So what’s an erotic poem doing in the Bible? It is a joyful celebration of love, of healthy and godly sexual expression. The Song of Songs does not directly mention God, but it is honouring to God. God is positive about human bodies throughout the Bible. It is an outrage that in our sin we have turned our bodies into a reason to shame each other, rather than something to celebrate.

In the creation narrative in Genesis 2, the first humans are described as “naked and not ashamed”, it is only after sin comes in Genesis 3 that they become ashamed of their bodies. God’s desire is that we are at ease with our bodies. It is not human bodies that are sinful, but the misuse and mistreatment of human bodies.

Human bodies can be harmed and mistreated. Sexual expression can be abusive, selfish and dishonest. Bodies and sexuality in themselves are gifts from God.

We should not be surprised to find an erotic poem in the Bible. We should not be surprised that God joyfully celebrates us. God does not inflict suffering on us. God suffers with us.

And this relates to the second passage that we heard earlier. “Come to me who are weary and heavy laden,” said Jesus in the passage that we heard earlier from Matthew’s Gospel. Several scholars point out that the phrase “heavy laden” was used by various Jewish writers at the time to refer to the effects of poverty and oppression under the Roman Empire. As the biblical scholar Warren Carter puts it, Jesus’ listeners were afflicted by “the political, economic and religious elite, and by the control of social superiors”.

So: God is not a boss, not a tyrant inflicting suffering on us. God is with us in the midst of our suffering, celebrating our bodies, our humanity, calling us to repentance, offering forgiveness and calling us to trust in the Kingdom of God – a very different sort of “kingdom” from the powers of this world, the powers of money and military might. “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me,” says Jesus. Jesus’ yoke is not like the yoke of the Roman Empire or other oppressive forces. It is a gentle yoke for those who choose a different way.

Thus the good news of the gospel can never be cheap or easy good news. The good news that Jesus brings is much deeper than shallow reassurances. People know how horrible the world can be. You have only to switch on the radio or open a social media platform to be reminded. In a world that has enough food to feed everyone in it, if only we organised it differently, people die every day from preventable hunger. Can there be any bigger sin in the world? 

The good news of the gospel is not trite or simplistic. It is not simply telling people that everything will be okay. The gospel involves proclaiming hope in the midst of horror, love in the midst of hate, the good news of the gospel in the middle of the bad news of the world’s sin and injustice.

The God of Jesus Christ is not a god who causes suffering but a god who suffers with us. He endured one of the most unimaginably painful forms of death that human cruelty has ever invented. He was sentenced to death by the forces of the Roman Empire that were occupying Palestine.

The Roman authorities may have thought that they could easily get rid of a troublemaking Jewish peasant. They were wrong. When God raised Jesus from the dead, the victory of love over evil was assured. The forces of sin, oppression and empire were put on notice that their defeat had begun.

This does not mean that we should simply sit back, accept things as they are, and wait for God to intervene in the future. Jesus promised his followers that the Holy Spirit would be with them now. The Kingdom of God is both now and not yet, breaking into our mundane and often unjust realities even as we await its total fulfilment in the future.

Trusting in the power of God, the power of love, is an alternative to trusting in the idols that are worshipped by the powers of this world – the powers of money or markets or military might. Jesus makes clear that this will lead to negative reactions from those who prefer the status quo. In the passage we heard earlier, we saw Jesus noting this his critics attacked him for eating and drinking, despite having attacked John the Baptist for being an ascetic!

So Jesus’ followers might be smeared. They might face far worse. Earlier this year, Christian pastors in the US spoke of being detained by ICE, Trump’s deportation enforcers who are known for snatching people off the streets with very little accountability. I was struck by the words of the Anglican Bishop of New Hampshire, Rob Hirschfield, who asked his clergy to make sure their wills were written because he fears where the situation may be heading. He said, “It may be that now is on longer the time for statements, but for us, with our bodies, to stand between the powers of this world and the most vulnerable”.

We may not be in that position in Britain. However, it is very clear that the far-right is on the march in Britain, with racist riots becoming increasingly common. Some of that racist violence is carried out by people claiming to defend what they describe as Christian Britain. Perhaps we need to ask what Jesus is calling us to do to defend the good news of God’s love.

Hatred and injustice will not win. Love will triumph. This is the Gospel we proclaim. It is the gospel of Jesus. It is the gospel of love. And it is good news.  

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My book, The Upside-Down Bible: What Jesus really said about money, sex and violence (Darton, Longman and Todd, 2015) can be bought in paperback or e-book, priced £9.99.

The gospel of hospitality in the midst of prejudice

On Sunday 14th June 2026 I had the privilege of leading worship at Foleshill Road United Reformed Church in Coventry. As usual, they were very welcoming. I am sorry that I forgot to post the text of my sermon on here before now!

My sermon is below (this is basically the text that I wrote beforehand but in practice I deviated from the wording at times and added in a few extra comments).

The sermon followed two Bible readings:

Genesis 18,1-15 and 21,1-17

Matthew 9,35 – 10,16

Usually when I preach, I focus on the Bible passages that are set in the Lectionary. One of the great thing about using the lectionary is that it leads us to reflect more deeply on parts of scripture that we might not otherwise think about as much. And today we’ve had two intriguing passages that seem to me to be very relevant to issues that we face in the world today.

I must admit that I’ve struggled a bit with that passage from Genesis about Abraham and his three visitors. But it’s fascinating. Although there are many things that we can learn from this passage, I want to suggest that one of the main themes of this story is hospitality. As we discussed earlier, hospitality takes many forms in many cultures. In the part of the world that we now often call the Middle East, there is a massive hospitality culture.

Abraham doesn’t know these three people, or anything about them, but his main desire when they come near his home is to give them food. I was recently discussing this passage with a Jewish friend who pointed out to me that it is not actually Abraham himself who prepares the food for his guests. It is Sarah who does the cooking and it is a servant boy who kills the calf. Though to be fair Abraham seems to serve the food.

We could spend a lot of time discussing who the guests are. People have spent centuries upon centuries reflecting upon the guests’ identity and discerning possible answers. The idea that they were in some sense divine, or at least messengers from God, goes back long into Jewish tradition, while within Christian tradition, there is long tradition of associating these visitors with the Trinity. Glimpses of God are partial, messages are mysterious and yet in offering hospitality to these apparently random passers-by, Abraham, Sarah and their household are able to encounter something of God. They would not have done so if Abraham had not run to greet them. I think it is crucial to note that it is hospitality, an openness to the other, that leads to this encounter with the divine.  

The second passage – from Matthew’s Gospel – is also about hospitality. Now I admit that we don’t have time to go into as much detail with this passage as I would like to – but then I often don’t have time to go into passages as much as I would like to! In this passage, Jesus tells his disciples to focus on taking his message to Jews rather to Gentiles and Samaritans, but this is clearly a stage in a process; later in the same Gospel, in Matthew, Jesus tells his followers to take the gospel to “all nations”. 

In the Genesis passage, Abraham and his household offer hospitality. In the Matthew passage, Jesus tells his followers to expect hospitality.

He tells them to take no gold, silver or copper, no extra tunics or sandals because “workers deserve their food”. Jesus seems to say that we should prepared not only to offer hospitality but to receive it, to assert our rights as well as to respect those of others. This may come as a surprise to some people. So I must go back to something we discussed earlier: the hospitality culture in the Middle East, still there now let alone in the time of Jesus.

Of course the form that hospitality takes varies from culture to culture. But hospitality has always been central to Christianity, whatever cultural forms Christianity takes. The Letter to the Hebrews declares, “Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by doing that some have entertained angels without knowing it.” St Benedict, founder of the Benedictine order of monks, told his monks to greet ever visitor to the monastery as if they were welcoming Christ himself.

Hospitality to strangers is not an invitation to naivety. We have to be careful about what today we call safeguarding. But being careful does not mean distrusting people just because they are strangers, or different to us. They, like us, are made in God’s image. God loves them just as God loves us.

The apostle Paul teaches in Galatians that “There is no longer Jew or Gentile, there is no longer slave or free, there is no longer male and female, because you are all one in Christ Jesus”. The love of strangers, the love across barriers of difference, is central to the gospel of Jesus Christ. That is why it is so appalling to see people on far-right marches, with racist messages, claim that they are defending “Christian values”. They are doing the opposite.

With the coming of Jesus, divisions of nationality, class, gender and status are overcome by the Kingdom of God. This is a central aspect of the gospel that we as Christians proclaim!

However, I suspect that most of us exclude people far more than we like to think we do. We may often do so unconsciously. When I started a new job a few years ago, I was shown round by two colleagues who said they would introduce me to “everyone” who worked there. At one point, we passed the cleaners as they went about their work. I paused uncertainly as my colleagues carried on walking. It was clear that “everyone” did not include the cleaners.

What does it really mean to be hospitable? I work as a chaplain in a multi-faith chaplaincy team at Aston University. I would like to tell you about a student who I met a couple of years ago. I’m going to call him Matthew. That’s not his real name, but I want to respect his privacy. Matthew was a postgraduate student from Nigeria.

Matthew turned up at the Chaplaincy one day in a state of considerable sadness. It was only a few weeks after he had arrived in Britain. His parents back home in Nigeria had discovered that he was gay. They had immediately broken off contact with him. On top of the unimaginable distress that this caused him, they had withdrawn financial support and stopped paying his tuition fees, meaning Matthew faced destitution and removal from his course.

If Matthew returned to Nigeria, he would be arrested for the crime of having sex with another man. More than that, he could be murdered, a not uncommon fate for gay people in his community.

I thank God that my colleagues and I were able to help Matthew to access some short-term financial support, and to introduce him to a church locally that welcomed him and did not condemn him for his sexuality. He decided to apply for asylum in the UK and I did what I could to introduce him to people who could advise him on the process. He was welcomed by a group of LGBT+ asylum-seekers, most of whom are Christians or Muslims, who gave him a sense of community and encouragement.

But then one day when Matthew came to see me in the Chaplaincy he had an awkward question. Despite the heartbreaking split with his family and the fears for his future, he had felt uplifted in the UK by the welcome and support he had encountered from the church he attended and from the LGBT+ asylum-seekers’ group. Up until that point he had not paid much attention to the British media. But now he had started to do so. He saw with alarm the way that asylum-seekers were described in many mainstream British newspapers. He was baffled by coverage that implied that life was easy for asylum-seekers when he knew from experience that the process of proving the need for asylum was tough, confusing and humiliating. Why, he asked, did so many British people seem to hate asylum-seekers?

I sat there facing him, and I was ashamed. Ashamed that parts of the British media, and parts of Britain, had descended to this. Ashamed that one of the richest countries in the world, with one of the highest military budgets in the world, claimed to be unable to meet the basic needs of its population as well as to welcome those fleeing persecution. But also I was ashamed of myself, and of the Christian Church, that we have not done more to stand up to the sort of narrative, to these sort of attitudes.

Now of course, there are many important debates to be had about migration, about asylum, about the right policies to adopt for different situations. I am sure that those of us in this church, like Christians generally, will disagree with each other about which party to vote for and which policies to endorse. And that’s a good thing. I don’t trust churches whose members all agree with each other! However, I suggest that hospitality, support for people in distress, refusal to demonise groups of people, rejection of lies – these should be principles that all Christians can stand for. And that means challenging the anti-migrant, anti-asylum-seeker and frankly racist narratives that are gripping much of the UK.

How did we arrive at the point in which it is normal to imply that all asylum-seekers and migrants are murderers and rapists because a tiny percentage of individual murderers and rapists happen to be asylum-seekers or migrants? One of the surest signs of prejudice against a group is to hold all its members responsible for the actions of individuals.

We cannot pretend that these things are not happening. Nor can we as Christians ignore the Bible’s consistent emphasis on the need to welcome the stranger. Take Leviticus 19,34: “The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the Lord your God.” This is not simply a one-off quote but typical one.

It would be a lot easier for me not to preach about this subject. But faced with lectionary readings on hospitality in the midst of racist riots, it would have been bizarre to avoid it.

Nonetheless, I am conscious of the danger of hypocrisy. If we criticise anti-migrant protesters for demonising others, do we risk demonising them? Do we risk talking of all of them as if they are all the same? The New Testament does not teach us to pretend we have no enemies. But it teaches us to love everyone, to love our enemies even though they are our enemies. It teaches us to recognise our own sin, and our own complicity in the sins of others.

So as we challenge exclusion, and racism, and prejudice, and the denial of hospitality, let us have the courage to ask ourselves. Who are we excluding? To whom are we failing to show hospitality? In the church, in our politics, or simply in our everyday lives, who do we demonise, overlook or simply leave out?

The reading that we heard from Matthew’s Gospel finishes with some challenging advice from Jesus: he urges his followers to be “wise as serpents and innocent as doves”. I think that’s a good phrase to reflect on as we think about how to live, how to operate in a world that increasingly seems to be dominated by hatred, bigotry and racism. We are called to be “wise as serpents and innocent as doves”.

That is very different to the attitudes that we often encounter in the world. There are people who cynically maintain that to be realistic we must water down our principles and take what we can for ourselves. Some give the impression that anyone who acts compassionately is unrealistic and naïve. But Jesus teaches us that we can be realistic about the horrors of the world – wise as serpents – while remaining compassionate and principled – innocent as doves.

Confronting hatred and racism is not easy. The situation we face may get worse before it gets better, and churches may have a tough part to play in the struggles ahead. So let us be prepared to be wise as serpents and innocent as doves, striving to love our enemies and recognising that hospitality is central to biblical faith. As the Letter to the Hebrews says, in showing hospitality to strangers, we may entertain angels unawares. Or at the very least, we may entertain human beings, created in the very image of God.

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My book, The Upside-Down Bible: What Jesus really said about money, sex and violence (Darton, Longman and Todd, 2015) can be bought in paperback or e-book, priced £9.99.